FORGIVENESS...

For the past few weeks that is all I been hearing.  Perhaps I am watching too many religious programs?  They say " Forgive so you can be Forgiven,"  "Forgive them for Yourself not for Them."  And I say to myself - Forgive those who have hurt me or did me wrong in order to achieve what?!  Have you ever had a friend or a family member or even a co-worker that did something to you so inconceivable that it is Unforgivable?!  I can probably write at least 2-3 heart-wrenching stories, that would change the minds of the most honorable Christian into not forgiving.  All I know is that Forgiveness must come from within!  Not until one gets over the hurt and pain someone else has caused them, it is real hard to FORGIVE.

I prayed a lot in my past and I find myself now praying often, but even prior to that - I have Forgiven people who most would think was not worthy of being Forgiven.  It took me a long time.  All I can say is that I am at a certain point in my life both mentally and spiritually that Forgiveness is not an issue.  I figured if I can Forgive my enemies that maybe HE will Forgive me as well?!

But I do ask myself one thing:  Is it still Forgiveness if I just FORGET about the whole situation as if it did not exist in the first place?  For example, There once was a Family Dilemma, Ordeal, Situation (I am not even sure what to call it) - which did not end well at all!  Instead of going into sordid details, I will just say I dealt with the problem after it happened by ignoring everyone!  I chose not to deal with it!  Therefore instead of harboring feelings and emotions of resentment, anger, hatred - I Let It Go... I do not know how or why, but I did - while some family members can not even talk about it.  And justly so - but as I look around ten years later, I noticed how the bitterness has consumed them.  I do not understand myself how I was able to Forgive and Forget?!  Perhaps because I chose to avoid it and Forgot about it - that Forgiveness was attainable!!

Take it from me - It Is better to Forget and Forgive...