My Son's Birthday

I think perhaps I expect too much from family or friends when it comes to my son's birthday?!  My son was born three months premature on what would have been my sister's 29th birthday.  It is also my ex mother-in-law's anniversary of her passing.  Not only do my family and friends know when my sister passed, so do her friends.  So as everyone post comments on my FB page about my sister's passing and what would have been her 38th birthday - I think to myself why does not anyone wish my son a Happy Birthday?  I mean after all he is here and my sister is not?  Perhaps, I am too selfish?  As Christians we do no longer celebrate one's birthday after they pass.  We do however, celebrate the anniversary of their passing.  Although it sounds a bit morbid, that is how it is suppose to be...

My sister passed in August 2003, and my ex mother-in-law passed in 2001 five months after I gave birth to my first born son - a stillborn.  So even if my own family or sisters' friends forget in their grief that it is my son's birthday, I expect my ex in-laws to remember.  Perhaps because I am divorced and conceived the pregnancy during the divorce of my ex-spouse, (I also have a DNA test to prove that it is his son) - that is why my son does not receive a phone call for his birthday.  I have no communication with my ex-spouse due to my own personal feelings and due to his incarceration.  Since I am re-married, my present spouse raised my son as his own, and my son is unaware of the situation.  Of course my ex in-laws are not in agreeance with this situation.  But so far in the past 9 years of my son's life they have never given him anything - not a gift, not a bottle, a can of milk, pampers, onesies or anything.  They did offer to visit and I thought that was a bit "shallow" of them since they have never visited me when I was first married.  Of course it would be better if I visited them so I can leave promptly instead of vice-versa when they can possibly take their time exiting.  But if the visits are going to be seldom - maybe once a year, why bother opening this door to my son when it would just confuse him?  As it is, I receive a phone call from them once-a-year, just for an update.  Not they are concerned or anything, but for them to be nosy!  The ex in-laws want to know if I have returned to work, where does my current husband works, and to ask a question about my youngest son who is autistic.

I recently decided to de-friend the ex in-laws from my FB page!  I mean why bother to call if you can just visit my page and find all the info you want?  Unknowingly to my husband, I had them on my profile for a few years, including my ex step-daughter, who is currently pregnant.  I decided I did not want to be bothered (or even hurt) to see my ex in-laws pouring their attention to my ex step-daughter and forget all about my son!  I even blocked them from my page - so if they wanted to "hear" from me, they would have to initiate the call.  Or am I suppose to call them and let them know what's going on?!

In any event, why would anyone call on my son's birthday...